One Day at a Time

I know that this is the AA motto, but it works very well with Colby's Family too.  Here lately though, it is not even one day at a time, it is more like one minute at a time.  We are having lots of ups and downs in behavior right now. 

I have started keeping a behavior log...It is kind of a different behavior log though.  I am logging the unsavory behavior and what seems to start it, but I am also logging good behavior and new things that Colby is doing. 

I have to brag on my Sometimes-Sweet-Never-A-Dull-Moment Boy.  We had an unsavory (BAD) issue and subsequent meltdown last night.  Dad was sitting in his room with him, and Colby got up and said, "I'm gonna tell mom that I'm Sorry."  And he did come up and tell me that he was sorry. 

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Needless to say, it really made my heart sing!

So Far, So Good - And a Note on Bad Behavior

We have had a good weekend...Well, a good weekend the the "Colby's Family Book"!  We had a few minor incidents with Colby, but really, nothing major.  We will see how today (Sunday) goes.

Mom's Note on Behavior:
On Saturdays, if Colby has had a good week, we take him to a fast food place. This week's choice-CHICK-FIL-A!  Now, I am not judging how other parents choose to parent their children, but there was this child (a boy about 4) in Chick-Fil-A throwing a fit for ice cream.  "I WANT ICE CREAM"-He was screaming.  Dad asked me if there was something wrong with the child, and I said, "I don't know, but the parents let him go play on the play ground area while they ate in the dining room."  God above knows that I am not the perfect parent, but fit-throwing is one thing that I do not allow.  Colby (and the others) have thrown fits in public, but we gather up our stuff and leave.  Above all else, they do not get the treat (such as ice cream).

I know that it is sometimes hard to tell your child, especially when they do have a disability like Autism.
I know that it is easier to just give in to the temptation of giving the child his/her way just so they don't scream, cry, throw a fit, lash out, hit, bite, kick, and the list could go on.
I admit that I have given in more times than I should have.  BUT, I have also learned, on this long journey that is being a part of "Colby's Family", that giving in ONLY condones the bad behavior.  It makes the child think that it is OK to act that way.  We (mom and dad) have learned that, even though it may be easier to throw up our hands and say, "Whatever", it is not helping Colby become the person he can become.